Where is 'home'

[Barry]

My sub conscious is confused where home is.

When I dream, I don't dream about Buttermere or the Cumbria, I dream about a small rural village in SE Spain. So my sleeping mind thinks I still live there, or my sub conscious wants to be there. With this year's winter and all the rain we've had, I suppose it's understandable!

Actually, it's quite weird.

[johnofgwent]

I was just up the road from there in the summer  in Wareham .  One of the funniest things I ever saw as people were throwing their dogs in the river off the quay in some bizarre annual time trial as they doggy paddled to the bank opposite .  Good Pubs in the area though ,one worth a visit is the Square and Compass just outside Swanage that sells its own Cider .  All the locals drink half a pint with a pastie ,I tried a pint and my face went numb . But yes Jog its a lovely part of the country .





Anyway home .

For all its faults is the City I grew up in . I love the countryside and our coastal towns but home , Home is London .

Ah yes, I know that town, a bridge over the river so near the water the only thing that can pass under it is the turds floating in it down from the outfall....



But it was an interesting place to walk round the earthworks of about two years back when the ice and snow from the beast in the east hit in march ..

[PhantomPhlyer]

Interesting question which has prompted some thought.







In truth I think 'home' is family and to an extent friends. When I am with my family, wherever I am, I am at home.

Home is where my family is, as opposed to a house being just a house  - I was 'Born in Wales' , and lived in four different dwellings before heading off to Camberley at age 17, and then various other places over a two year period.



This was followed by a spell in Pensacola Florida, and San Diego California, for 3+ years, courtesy of Uncle Sam. Then back to Wales and lived in four more dwellings, before moving to leafy Berkshire in the late 70's, and occupied three more dwellings, and also bought a condo in Ormond Beach Florida, which we kept for 5 or 6 years.



I have a child, and grandchildren living in the UK, as well as Denmark, and the US, and spend time with them all each year, in their 'homes'!



My ideal dwelling would be a cottage and small south facing garden in Guernsey, which we have been visiting for the past 40 years or so, but it would only be a 'home' with the family there?

[Streetwalker]

Swanage seafront.

I was just up the road from there in the summer  in Wareham .  One of the funniest things I ever saw as people were throwing their dogs in the river off the quay in some bizarre annual time trial as they doggy paddled to the bank opposite .  Good Pubs in the area though ,one worth a visit is the Square and Compass just outside Swanage that sells its own Cider .  All the locals drink half a pint with a pastie ,I tried a pint and my face went numb . But yes Jog its a lovely part of the country .





Anyway home .

For all its faults is the City I grew up in . I love the countryside and our coastal towns but home , Home is London .

[Borchester]

In truth I think 'home' is family and to an extent friends. When I am with my family, wherever I am, I am at home.

True

[T00ts]

Interesting question which has prompted some thought.



We have lived in our rural Georgian farmhouse for nearly thirty years. We are very happy here but if it suited my purposes I would move tomorrow with scarcely a backward glance. We have a pied-de-terre in NW London. It is bijou but comfortable and convenient for London theatres, restaurants etc, but again if needs be I would sell it with no real regrets. We used to have a delightful timber lodge or chalet right on the Solway Coast near Castle Douglas where the family enjoyed dozens of holidays and long weekends. I was never bored there but when the time came and our use of it had reduced considerably we quite happily sold it. I have little fondness for the family homes I grew up in.



In truth I think 'home' is family and to an extent friends. When I am with my family, wherever I am, I am at home.

An interesting reply and as I think about it I have also never looked back with any real yearning. As you say it is where the family is that makes it home so I guess my home is now a combination of motorways and B roads in  order to spend time with those I love! Perhaps that's why I no longer feel really settled.

[Major Sinic]

I am not seeking your current address but where do you feel is your spiritual home. Modern society relocates pretty regularly during a lifetime but is there a place where you find yourself relaxed, able to breathe freely and feel settled? Is it where you live now, where you were born, where you were educated, or somewhere in between? have been in this area for over 50 years but if I'm honest it still doesn't really feel like my home. Born in London and raised in Surrey still gets my vote, although each time I go back I am disappointed at how different it has become. The green fields that I fondly remember are long gone hidden under tarmac etc.

Interesting question which has prompted some thought.



We have lived in our rural Georgian farmhouse for nearly thirty years. We are very happy here but if it suited my purposes I would move tomorrow with scarcely a backward glance. We have a pied-de-terre in NW London. It is bijou but comfortable and convenient for London theatres, restaurants etc, but again if needs be I would sell it with no real regrets. We used to have a delightful timber lodge or chalet right on the Solway Coast near Castle Douglas where the family enjoyed dozens of holidays and long weekends. I was never bored there but when the time came and our use of it had reduced considerably we quite happily sold it. I have little fondness for the family homes I grew up in.



In truth I think 'home' is family and to an extent friends. When I am with my family, wherever I am, I am at home.

[T00ts]

Many years ago I had my palm read and many things she told me came true as the years went by. The one thing I was really looking forward to was the large dwelling by the sea. It never happened - perhaps I took a wrong turn!

[johnofgwent]

You have to have a good reason for that one. I went there once I must have missed something.  :-?

The coastal walks, the quirky buildings, the beer and the music. And see my other post 1 min ago.



It's the coast where my grandfather perfected thecradar that spotted the nazis.

[johnofgwent]

I spent the earliest years of my childhood in a home at the very edge if the city  the back garden looking back at civilisation, the front looking out over open rough ground, hills mountains and river valley, and after moving into the inner suburbs at eight and then into.its very heart at 24 I could not wait to get the ***k out



The first home I called my own offered me the same sort of scenic view of distant hills and greenery I saw in my earliest childhood, my second home of my own much more so, and the current JoG Towers has a top floor that looks out over the tidal Usk valley although it is rather more urbanised than I would like.



My ideal is one of those wooden houses appearing as internet memes to scare the snowflake generation with promises of mega bucks to live there without a phone.



I know from real experience the isolation of life at the very edge of the wilderness and the grief  spell.of bad weather there can bring means it's not ideal but I'd be there in a shot

[Sampanviking]

I know what you mean Toots. If I have a home it would have to be the South Hampshire Coast where I grew up.

The trouble I think is that "Home" in that sense was a time as well as a place and there is no going "home" possible now.

I lived in the family home for 17 years but have not been anywhere for more than five after that.

In that sense I am probably homeless and most likely always will be.

[T00ts]

Swanage seafront.

You have to have a good reason for that one. I went there once I must have missed something.  :-?

[Barry]

The English Lakes is where I like to be.

Buttermere, especially.

[cromwell]

Where doesn't exist really.....middle earth post aggro



Physically anywhere in the many places I've visited if it was overlooking the sea be it Cornwall,Skye or Northumberland by preference for my last few years.

[Borchester]

I am not seeking your current address but where do you feel is your spiritual home. Modern society relocates pretty regularly during a lifetime but is there a place where you find yourself relaxed, able to breathe freely and feel settled? Is it where you live now, where you were born, where you were educated, or somewhere in between?

I have been in this area for over 50 years but if I'm honest it still doesn't really feel like my home. Born in London and raised in Surrey still gets my vote, although each time I go back I am disappointed at how different it has become. The green fields that I fondly remember are long gone hidden under tarmac etc.

Pretty much where I am now, which is north west London. My children were born here and my wife loves the area. It is quiet but has easy access to museums, theatres, movies and concert halls, libraries, coffee shops and parks and other open spaces.

























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